"It's not about you anymore, not!Stark." She put her hand over her face. "And it hasn't really been since not!Harry got taken the first time."
Considering the fact that we opened on not!Harry getting the shit beat out of him (continuing a pattern begun in "Kiss Kiss Bang Bang" and apparently not stopping anytime soon as he continues to fulfill his role as My Favorite Punching Bag), yeah, this story has never been about not!Tony, has it. (Yes, the punctuation there is deliberate. That's not a question.)
Whether this is a problem or not remains to be seen. I'm becoming reconciled to the notion that it might not be.